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Being single for so long has been the greatest thing I have experienced in my twenties.

I know that sentence sounds terrible. Lazy. Maybe even pathetic, but its true. I have had the chance to learn so much about myself and my friends. I have looked at life in a new light. Weighed out the things that actually matter in this life. I hope my girlfriends read this and take some of it to heart. They are the most wonderful people I have in my life and I only want them to lead joyful lives.

I look back at the younger me and feel sorry for her. For her insecurities. All the mistakes. I think about the time I wasted worrying about things that don’t matter. I have learned not to worry about what has happened in the past, but to look forward to the future.  Don’t worry about the people that no longer are in your life today because they don’t matter enough to share your journey with. Don’t weigh things by the negativity that has happened, but by the joys you have had, no matter how small.

 It doesn’t matter what kind of shoes you are wearing or if you’re carrying the season’s must have handbag. Consumerism will never ever fulfill your lack of self-esteem. The people who really love you won’t care if you’re wearing Payless or Prada. Believe me, I adore nice things, but I won’t put an obsession for Louboutins in the way of the things that really matter.

Nobody really cares if you destroy your cuticles. If they do, they are a complete moron focused only on life’s shallows. No guy really cares about the shoes your wearing. If he does, he is the wrong guy. You’re beautiful, especially without make-up. Embrace your youth and go out of the house with a naked face. If a guy can’t see your beauty without make-up, he will never ever love the real you. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You don’t look like Heidi Klum because you aren’t Heidi Klum. Embrace your natural beauty and unique style and the people that really love you will too.

Don’t worry about what people think about you. It’s your life, not theirs. If I worried about all the terrible things people say about me, I would never be able to leave the house. I see people that spend their free time talking about me and I just smile and wave hello. If all they can do is worry about your life, there must be something wrong with theirs. Be kind to people, even the ones that hate you. You never know when they can be taken away from this earth. If negative people are in your life, ditch them, they’re never going to bring anything important to your world.

It’s ok to have self-esteem. You’re allowed to brag and people should be happy for your accomplishments. Learn how to take a compliment and thank the person that gives it to you. Make sure you compliment people too. It’s ok to be embarrassed. We’re all allowed to have emotions. None of us are perfect.

Life isn’t a Hollywood film. But if you’re a dreamer, like me, just make sure you head down your yellow brick road with heart, courage, and brains. And if you’re lucky enough to have friends like I do, the wicked witch will never be that scary.